But when October comes and goes in no time at all
I’ll begin to feel the chill of an early fall.
Oh how quick they slip away, here today and gone tomorrow.
Love and seasons never stay, bitter winds are sure to follow. — George Strait, “The Chill of An Early Fall”
In honor of the Country Music Awards, today’s lyric of the day quote is from the legendary George Strait. I love the double meaning of the word fall in this song. It’s a season and it’s a feeling. The season of fall is the predecessor of winter just like a feeling of fall in a relationship may be the beginning of goodbye.
A start of a relationship is a funny thing. In his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis writes: “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .”. In the beginning of any relationship, you meet someone and if you click, it feels like you’ve known them all your life. You share about yourselves, mostly similarities, and the time flies, because you’re having fun! But as Mr. Strait sings “when October comes and goes in no time at all… begin to feel the chill of early fall.” Although he’s clearly being a bit pessimistic, he captures a very interesting definition of love as a feeling that “doesn’t stay.” and “bitter winds being sure to follow”. In a way he is right, there is always a fall from grace in every relationship. That moment when you realize, that other person is as human and imperfect as you are. It’s a difficult moment but we all know that it is inevitable: that person you deemed the queen of summer, is soon to fall off her pedestal. That is just the nature of this world and human life in general. The fear of how far they will fall or how it will hurt us when we realize their humanness is sometimes worse than the actual act itself. It creeps up on us like cold weather in November. Mostly because it reflects the fear of how imperfect and “human” we can be. And the thing about it is, especially if you’re from southern california; if you have to experience the fall, the least that could happen is not having to experience it earlier than necessary! Most of us want to stay in the “honeymoon” period as long as possible. With no bitterness, all sweetness.
But, the reality is, as George says, we’re all “here today and gone tomorrow”. So why not embrace the human qualities of another person before it’s too late. Your love for someone once you realize they are not perfect, will bring much peace and freedom. And it will help you love yourself, and understand that you are loved in a deeper way: flaws and all. And if someone is not meant to be in your life, it is my firm belief that they will not stay. People are in our lives for a “reason, season or a lifetime” And if they’re meant to be, they will be. And if they’re meant to leave, they will leave with the winds of tomorrow. And you will be okay.