Autumn blew the quilt right off

Cover of "Passing Afternoon"

Cover of Passing Afternoon

Autumn blew the quilt right off the perfect bed she made.
And she’s chosen to believe
In the hymns her mother sings
Sunday pulls its children from their piles of fallen leaves
Iron & Wine “Passing Afternoon

There’s a saying that goes, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans”. I think we have all, at one time or another, found ourselves in a place where we think we finally have lined all our ducks in a row, fit all the pieces of the puzzle together and it looks like life’s finally coming together and then, like Sam beam sings, “autumn blows the quilt right off” and we’re left with the pieces of the “perfect, predictable life” we had envisioned in our minds. Our ducks are free-style floating across the lake (go with me here), a toddler has steam-rolled through our puzzle and all the leaves have been shaken off our beautiful fall tree.

What do we do now? We’ve tried doing it all on our own. Piecing our quilts perfectly together. Finding the right significant other that meets all the qualities on our “list”. Finding the perfect job that has nothing we dread (like paperwork), driving the right car, buying the best house. But really, what if our life turned out that way? What if you got everything you wanted and it all lined up perfectly?

There is a bible verse in which Jesus says “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish will give him a snake instead?” So, you may ask: WHY AM I NOT GETTING WHAT I ASK FOR? WHY IS MY PERFECT LIFE NOT LINING UP? Well maybe, just may be. You think you’re asking for a fish… but really you’re asking for a snake. What we think we want may be the very thing that will destroy us. What we think is a “perfect life” may not be all that we hope it will be. What if it turns out that the imperfection and the unpredictability is really what makes life beautiful and what will make us look back on our lives with joy and gratitude.

May we learn the lessons from the hymns our mothers sing. And instead of mourning over the fallen leaves, find the faith to say “I’m ready for whatever life brings”.

And it’s hard to hold a candle in the cold November Rain…

And it's hard to hold a candle in the cold November Rain...

Happy November, from Guns N’ Roses… and Me :). November Rain is one of those classic songs that brings you into a feeling like fall colors bring you into a season. It’s a beautiful lyrical and musical piece (Fun Fact: It is the longest song that made it on the Billboard 100 top 10– 8 minutes 57 seconds) but according to my philosophical paradigm about music; the truly beautiful part of this song is its expression of what cannot be spoken, but something we cannot be silent on. It express nostalgia, longing for what was and trying to hold onto it in the midst of changing weather.

Like Axl writes, “hearts can change”, but that is not the only thing in life that changes. In fact, the truth is life is all about change. And a change in season often mirrors a change in life circumstances. Some of us welcome Change with open arms, and some of us try to avoid it and live in the past. Either way, the only true thing about change is that it happens. And it happens to all of us. But the real lesson we must learn in the face of welcome and unwelcome change in our lives is that the better we prepare ourselves to handle the unexpected, the better we are able to live in the moment and not worry about what the next season of life will bring.

So here’s to a new season, one where we can embrace something new, and step out into the unknown. A new season, a new chance to FALL in love with your life. Every second of it.