here today and gone tomorrow

But when October comes and goes in no time at all
I’ll begin to feel the chill of an early fall.

Oh how quick they slip away, here today and gone tomorrow.
Love and seasons never stay, bitter winds are sure to follow. — George Strait, “The Chill of An Early Fall”

In honor of the Country Music Awards, today’s lyric of the day quote is from the legendary George Strait. I love the double meaning of the word fall in this song. It’s a season and it’s a feeling. The season of fall is the predecessor of winter just like a feeling of fall in a relationship may be the beginning of goodbye.

A start of a relationship is a funny thing. In his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis writes: “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .”. In the beginning of any relationship, you meet someone and if you click, it feels like you’ve known them all your life. You share about yourselves, mostly similarities, and the time flies, because you’re having fun! But as Mr. Strait sings “when October comes and goes in no time at all… begin to feel the chill of early fall.” Although he’s clearly being a bit pessimistic, he captures a very interesting definition of love as a feeling that “doesn’t stay.” and “bitter winds being sure to follow”. In a way he is right, there is always a fall from grace in every relationship. That moment when you realize, that other person is as human and imperfect as you are. It’s a difficult moment but we all know that it is inevitable: that person you deemed the queen of summer, is soon to fall off her pedestal. That is just the nature of this world and human life in general. The fear of how far they will fall or how it will hurt us when we realize their humanness is sometimes worse than the actual act itself. It creeps up on us like cold weather in November. Mostly because it reflects the fear of how imperfect and “human” we can be. And the thing about it is, especially if you’re from southern california; if you have to experience the fall, the least that could happen is not having to experience it earlier than necessary! Most of us want to stay in the “honeymoon” period as long as possible. With no bitterness, all sweetness.

But, the reality is, as George says, we’re all “here today and gone tomorrow”. So why not embrace the human qualities of another person before it’s too late. Your love for someone once you realize they are not perfect, will bring much peace and freedom. And it will help you love yourself, and understand that you are loved in a deeper way: flaws and all. And if someone is not meant to be in your life, it is my firm belief that they will not stay. People are in our lives for a “reason, season or a lifetime” And if they’re meant to be, they will be. And if they’re meant to leave, they will leave with the winds of tomorrow.  And you will be okay.

Autumn Fallin, from trees. The snow is up to our knees… I believe, it was you. Who I wanted to be walkin next to.

And I believe we were friends
And I believe we will be again

If I knock on your door would you let me in?”- JayMay “Autumn Fallin'”

Best song. And in this video, it is performed in one of the best cities in the world. London is such a charming place. Besides all the history, literature and religion that was birthed in the Motherland; deep down, it is a city with a story. And how fitting that the gifted story-telling singer-songwriter, Jaymay chooses this city with a story as the backdrop to her autumn fairy-tale.

The thing I love about this song, and Jaymay as an artist, is like any good story-teller, she invites you into her story, her life. And she does it by setting up the scene. “Once upon a time, in a galaxy far away”… Okay, not that kind of story, I’m not going all geek squad on you, don’t worry, but by the first words “Autumn’s fallin…” she sets a beautiful scene. Autumn is falling from trees, and instantly in our minds we see Jaymay and ____ walking through the snow, walking through central park, getting rid of shoes, and a whole bunch of other fun things that this setting, this season may bring. Our imagination sets in as she tells the story. And we’re fully aware that this is her story until slowly but surely, her story becomes ours.

And we go from, man I wish I was walking with Jaymay in Central Park to… BAM. The picture of the one person I want to be walking next to. RIGHT THERE WITH ME. The “hero”, “prince charming” or “princess charming” in our story. Maybe someone comes to mind. Maybe a group of friends, maybe a long lost friend you’ve lost touch with, someone you couldn’t picture your life story without.
Whoever it is. Whatever it is. A good song brings the song-writer’s life experiences into your heart and your mind. It makes you reevaluate your life and ask yourself tough questions like “who do I want to be talking to, walking next to, spending forever next to?” What kind of stories and adventures do I want to tell? And who is in those stories that I don’t want there. And who is not in those stories that I do want? And then of course these thoughts and hopes, lead us to action. It leads us to following our dreams and believing our hopes will come true… “I believe we were friends. I believe we would be again.”

Autumn is falling. Let’s fall right with it, fall in love with the story of your life. 🙂